When you like someone and want them to notice you, it’s tempting to put on a spectacular show for their attention. The problem is, sometimes the show you put on doesn’t really reflect you as a person — it reflects a made-up stranger. And what’s the point of getting your crush interested in a made-up stranger, you know? So if there’s someone out there that you want to impress, read on for some hints on getting the wrong and right kinds of attention.

The Wrong Way: Fake a similar interest. If your crush likes cars and you couldn’t care less, you’d look up some car facts to impress your crush with and make an impression.

The Much Better Way: If you have different interests, ask your crush about the stuff they’re interested in, and listen to their answers. Learn from them, instead of trying to cram behind their back like it’s a test. The problem with faking an interest is that you only know what you’ve memorized… and the second your crush wants to really talk cars with you, you’ll be lost. Likewise, talk about the stuff that you’re interested in that they might like. This way, your crush gets to know the real you. And you might both discover new stuff you have in common!

The Wrong Way: Wear tons of cologne, make-up, or something else that girls/guys are supposed to ‘dig.’ If a little works well, then a lot would work even better.

The Much Better Way: Wear what you want to wear, what you feel like you look good in, and what suits your style — not what someone tells you will ‘get you chicks/dudes.’ If you like a scent, it’s fine to wear it, but it’s easy to overdo it — especially after you get used to it. The truth is, all of that stuff that supposed to ‘drive them wild’ can actually drive a lot of the good ones away.

The Wrong Way: Agree with everything they say, even if inside you disagree. You’d change your views, your opinions, even your friends if it meant being ‘more like’ your crush.

The Much Better Way: Be true to yourself. You don’t have to argue with your crush all the time or shoot down their ideas, but some honesty about your opinions is in order. There are two benefits here.

1) Your crush isn’t bored to death by you saying ‘yes, yes, absolutely, I agree completely, you’re so right’ all the time.

2) Your crush gets to know about your opinions, instead of just their own — which they already know about.

The Wrong Way: Practice some one-upmanship in order to make an impression. You’d trounce them in air hockey, try to tell the most epic story, and generally try to show your crush what a stand-out you are and how lucky they’d be to have you.

The Much Better Way: Try appreciating your crush rather than trying to overpower him or her. We’re not saying to throw the air hockey game, but you could always play a variety of games — some suited to you, some to your crush. That way you’re not only doing stuff that makes you into the big shot and your crush into the conquest.

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